Most of us have an idea about what love should look like, how it should be, and how it should feel.
Love,however, is a tricky thing. A guy can say he loves you and not truly mean it, and a guy can love you a lot but not be ready to say it.
So how do you know if a man is truly in love with you? If he shows these 10 signs, then it’s pretty safe to say he is.
He treats you with respect
When a man is in love with a woman, he respects her. He cares about the details of her life. He treats her well. If your guy values your opinions, compliments your character, celebrates your accomplishments, pays attention to details, and even accommodates your quirky habits .
You’re always on his mind
Does he send you funny texts during the day? Do songs, signs and hilarious headlines remind him of you? Does he Google last night’s unresolved debate — “Which is healthier: ice cream or gelato?” — when he’s at work? If you’re on his mind throughout his day, he’s invested into the relationship.
Love can soften the heart. Being right isn’t as important as doing right by the other person. If he starts to meet you in the middle on topics he’s typically stubborn about , he’s leading with his heart instead of his head. Signs of selflessness are huge indicators that he’s in love.
He touches you in public
Most guys have no qualms about touching their girlfriends in private. With public displays of affection, however, they can be a little more hesitant. When your man puts his arm around you in public, he’s both proudly announcing to the world that you’re together and making a protective gesture.
He wants to take care of you
Women often roll their eyes at this, but he just wants to make things better. He wants to provide for you, practically and emotionally. He wants to make you smile. When he puts in the effort to comfort and reassure you, he’s saying “I love you” in both word and deed.
He wants you to love his family
Does he want you to meet everyone who’s important to him? When he’s ready to introduce you to people who matter most — and is equally eager to meet your friends and family — he has no intentions of going anywhere. He’s proud to be with you and wants his family to fall in love with you, too.
He’s not afraid to fight — or apologize
Sometimes it takes a fight or two to understand just how strong a relationship is. A man in love is one who isn’t afraid of conflict — or apologies. Instead, he fights fair, respects you when things get rocky, listens to your perspective, hates to see you upset, and wants to resolve things well.
“We” has replaced “I”
Listen to his word choices. When he starts using words like “we,” “us,” and “Team Awesome” — Each guy will have his own way to describe the unit you’ve become — he’s not thinking of himself as a single man anymore. You’re now part of his life. And he loves that.
When he talks about the future, you’re in it
Does he make plans for the future that include you? Did he invite you to his buddy’s wedding next fall? Does he joke about your future children together? When he’s got a future with you on his mind, he’s already decided that he has no intentions of letting you go.
He says so
If he says he loves you, believe him. A man in love can’t keep it to himself for long.