With divorces throwing many a marriage apart, there are those who feel that this institution is in urgent need of an overhaul if it is to remain relevant and not become the sham modern marriages are increasingly ending up as.
While many lament that monogamy is all but dead, we feel that it’s still too early to write off the institution, or even reinvent it. It’s worked in the past, and there’s no reason why it shouldn’t now. What we might need to do instead is to find ways to make our marriage work, rather than wait for it to flounder and then take recourse in the excuse that it wasn’t meant to work anyway.
It’s no secret that marriage is hard work. But if your foundation is strong, you can maintain a happy and healthy lifelong relationship.
Relationship experts suggest that if you follow these 9 basic rules you will never have any doubts about your marriage again:
Listen. Help your spouse express his or her feelings. Empathize. Show support. Don’t problem solve or fix. Most of us just want to be heard. If your partner needs to vent after a long, stressful day, let them. Pay attention to what they’re saying and show your support. When the two of you are disagreeing, let your partner explain their feelings and listen closely. Let them know that you value their opinion and they are heard.
Learn To Compromise
Compromise is often a big part of a relationship, especially marriage. When you don’t see eye to eye with your partner, search for a solution that works for both of you. Being willing to compromise in a marriage will only make the relationship stronger. It shows that you are both willing to sacrifice and negotiate in order to make the other one happy, and when a problem arises, you respect each other enough to communicate openly and solve it.
Stress, duties and other factors can occur every now and then, and we kind of forget what marriage was all about. It is essential you know how to have fun even years after being married.
This way, you’ll keep your youthful spirit and be able to fall in love with your partner every day.
Kindness is the key
Words can come out of your mouth but as much as you try you can never take them back. Therefore, calculate every insult that might come to mind and keep it to yourself.
The end goal here is not to offend the other person, but to allow him or her expression of thoughts.
If you begin shifting blame and insult each other, your relationship will face serious destabilization. Instead of hurtful words, choose compliments and kind gestures- that always does the trick.
Be grateful and show it to your spouse
Gratitude is directly related to happiness. Recognize, in even the smallest things, reasons to be grateful. Show the gratitude you feel. That little magic word that we learned in childhood should be used abundantly in marriage. Say things like, “Thank you for everything you do for me.” Or, “Thank you for being so nice.” And, “Thank you for the delicious dinner.” Look for reasons to thank your spouse, and you will find them.
Trust and be trustworthy
A marriage tormented with jealousy does not last. Trust your spouse, and give them reason to trust you.
Compliment one another
Give sincere compliments to the person you love. Talk about his or her smile, eyes, hair, character, voice, posture, how he or she acts, the professional or mother or father he or she is. Overall, let you spouse know just how much you admire him or her.
Talk with each other
Talking is the key to solving problems.
Show your love physically
Touching, caressing, kissing, holding hands and hugging are all essential acts that keep the flame of love burning bright. Healthy sexual relations within marriage are very important, but they should not be the only focus. Abuse of any kind, in turn, is never acceptable. It destroys romantic love and ruins the natural beauty of sexual intimacy in marriage.