Let’s face it. Society was set up to benefit the family. It is the unit where the next generation is raised, and therefore much of the focus of social interaction is helping married couples with turning their children into great citizens.
That’s the gist, and in the wake of these efforts, those who have not found a mate in life, and do not have offspring, no matter why that is the case, can feel very left behind and left out.
The thing is, life isn’t always a bed of roses for those who are married. (That’s one of the things that single adults realize as life goes on.)
In this family, right now, there are more single adults than married ones, and all of us share one mantra: it’s better to be single and happy than married and miserable.
It really is that simple.
This does not mean that all of us who are single wish to remain so for the rest of our lives. If a relationship is meant to be, it will happen and in the time frame that the Almighty or the universe imposes. In some ways, it is very freeing to not have to answer to another person in life. On the other hand, it is not good to be lonely or alone.
So, in learning to love being single:
It is important to spend quality time with others as well as with yourself.
Have answers to probing questions ready when friends and family ask when you’re going to get around to actually dating and finding a person with whom to have a relationship.
Enjoy the activities, avocations, and hobbies you like to do rather than trying to please someone else.
Do not hold back waiting for the right person to come into your life.
Explore your own sense of style and tastes.
In short, be yourself, not what someone else expects you to be. It is the road to happiness.
Yes, some of us are single, and at this point, it’s going to take someone freakin’ amazing to change that. That goes for men and women alike.