The Best Marriage Advice From A Divorced Woman

This should be one of the best and the most serious texts and articles you have read recently. It is one article pure with real and honest words from a divorced woman about the marriage and love. It should be one very good story and lesson for you in the same time.

This is a story of woman that is divorced and was ready to open her heart and soul with you. She got divorced after 7 years of marriage. Based on the years spent in marriage she learned some very valuable things.

Consider these tips:

1. Always seek out the best in him. Dwell on those things, not what you don’t like about him.

2. Have sex with him. Often. All the time if need be.

Best advice received from an older woman on the eve of my wedding 12 years ago: Make love a lot, especially when you don’t feel like it. Making love is a balm, it covers and heals a lot of the wounds we inflict on one another in a marriage. When you feel like you just aren’t close to your spouse, that’s the time to take off your clothes and get close.

3. It’s not your job to change or fix him. We are all on a journey.

4. Tell him how big/strong/smart/manly he is all the time. They tend to forget.

5. Never forget or take for granted that your man chose you.

6. Laugh. Even when it’s not funny, laugh. Laughter heals so many ailments in a relationship.

7. Take responsibility for your actions – and help him do the same. Accountability is a must in a solid relationship.

8. Love him in his love language. How he needs to be loved may not be the same way you need to be loved.

9. Make yourself look pretty. The more feminine you act the more it reminds him he is a man.

10. Be present. Give him your time and attention when he needs it. In my experience, during those times I did serve him, he over time, served me.

11. Never talk about other men, even if they are fictional or movie, even if it’s to say “you are so much hotter than that guy” Most men already think they are, so this will confuse them.

12. Be willing to have him sexually. Let him know you need his masculine presence, that you trust him fully.3.

13. Give him space. He needs times to find his new self (we change constantly) before he can give of himself.

14. Allow your husband to love you his way instead of comparing his expression of love to your own ideals. If you keep comparing, you may miss the most beautiful moments of tenderness.

15. Forgive. Don’t let history hold you or your man hostage.

16. Never underestimate the power of simply touching each other. Sometimes it can say what words can not.

17. Always, choose love. Love is action, not emotion. Don’t miss that.

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3 thoughts on “The Best Marriage Advice From A Divorced Woman

  • September 5, 2017 at 6:26 am
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    And when you come home from working a high-stress, 10-hour day job in order to pay the mortgage and put food on the table, and he follows you to the bathroom dumping everything on you that has happen TO HIM that day while he has sat at home watching TV, reading junk books and doing crossword puzzles, just try to be ready for a good roll between the sheets. I dare you!!! Because after all isn’t that what marriage is all about satisfying his needs. Making sure he has food, clothing and shelter and paying his huge medical bills. Not expecting anything in return. Hey you signed on to this marriage thing, just accept whatever he dishes out with a smile on your face, a song in your heart and work your self silly!!!! It takes two to tango!!!!

  • September 5, 2017 at 6:44 am
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    PS: Due to circumstances beyond my control, over the last five to six years I have gained a lot of weight. My darling sweet husband’s comment — “Good for you gaining weight, now you will not be attractive to other men!” With spouses like this, a person does not need any enemies.

  • September 13, 2017 at 10:49 am
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    38 years 2 weeks and 4 days later an anvil was removed from my shoulders. Could breath easily. Marriage counseling, several times, was it seemed always to fix me, sex was used as a weapon, there was never enough money no matter I worked a regular job in residential construction and had my own contracts as side jobs. It was a double bind situation “damned if I did and damned if I didn’t.” At the end of those years, weeks and days a divorce proceeding was concluded although very expensive was money well spent. Many months later following two commitments to my self, if I had something to say I would say it tactfully but firmly if needed. Promised also I would learn country dance. Do both and the country dance created the right setting to find a woman who likes me, loves me and after 7 years of marriage am still in awe at what she does for me. Physical intimacy is never lacking, conversations are open and clear and she is a pleasure to be with. It is so good to be with this wonderful friend and wife.

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